Love Over Control
14Jul2010 Filed under: Random Author: AkirahWyattI’m trying this new thing where I accept that I am exactly where I’m supposed to be right now.
It’s beautiful.
I no longer feel pressure to figure it all out because I know eventually, everything will get figured out. Life is no longer overwhelming me because I’m focusing on what’s around me rather than what’s ahead of me.
I read an amazing quote last week that really struck a chord with me:
“The opposite of love is not hate. It’s control.”
For twenty-five years, I’ve prided myself in my ability to maintain control. But it was all an illusion. Clearly, I’ve never had control over my life. I even had to surrender the one thing I thought I wanted…marrying the Ex…because instead of love, I chose control. I viewed our relationship as a destination rather than a journey and all I ever wanted to do was map out the quickest route possible. All that control caused it to implode.
From now on, I choose love over control. I want life to happen and I want to soak it all in as it does. And I want the Universe to do its damn job! I work enough as it is…there’s no need for me to pile more onto my workload.
I want to trust that I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be right now. Because trying to control something that isn’t meant to be controlled will never triumph over love.
And isn’t it love that makes the world go round?
A.Smith
July 15th, 2010 at 9:48 AM
Amen and amen to this lesson.
One of my friends asked me not too long ago how I seemed to not be bothered by being single. I was kinda taken aback — I hadn’t ever thought about WHY it didn’t bother me (though I did –and do– wonder why it bothers her). I realized, though, that it had everything to do with being cool with where I am.
And I think that place comes easier to some of us than others, but the ones who really work to get there really feel the benefits of it more than the rest of us.
imerika
July 15th, 2010 at 11:46 AM
this is by far one of your best posts. i LOVE it. and it is SO what i need to hear right now…i feel like this post speaks to me. and i need to learn to give up control…
Jessica
July 15th, 2010 at 9:45 PM
Wow that is a great quote. That is something I need to definitely be better about because control takes up too much of my life right now.
Suburban Sweetheart
July 16th, 2010 at 7:35 PM
I have a tattoo on my foot that’s a heart, with one side created by a question mark. It’s the cover of an album and it means “Are you brave enough to love?”
I wanted to remind myself – always – that I am. It’s tough but I’m trying.
Paige
July 23rd, 2010 at 11:34 AM
Akirah! Brilliant! That’s so funny, about a month ago I wrote a song called “control” and the last line in the chorus is “that’s not love, it’s control”. hmmm. You’re amazing. Keep on keepin’ on love. x