One of the most stressful aspects of life lately has been how lost I’ve felt the past few months. Immediately after being laid off, I looked around and asked myself, “Now what?” Although I refined many skills through my job, I knew it wasn’t wholly fulfilling me as a person. I knew I’d have to move on eventually, but I didn’t feel an urgency to set long-term goals for myself until I was given the ax.
Let me just say, this is a very scary position to find yourself in. It’s kinda sad too. To work at the same place for almost two years and to have no better understanding of what you should be doing with your life is absolutely dreadful. Trust me.
Anyhow, as most of you know, I’ve taken this time to “rediscover myself.” It’s been hard not knowing what’s ahead, but I’ve enjoyed doing the things I love, whether I get paid to do them or not. And surprisingly, I’ve learned more about myself through the past three months of volunteering than I have in the year and half of working in my last position.
This is not a knock on my former employer. I am far from bitter and feel no need to criticize my old company. On the contrary, I know my old co-workers desire to do great work and I will continue being a mentor for their online mentoring program for as long as they need me (and as long as I have the time). But I know there’s a better fit out there for me. And I’ve been on a mission to find it.
I think I’m getting there. I tell you, these past few months have been eye-opening! I have found confirmation that I need to be helping people, probably by working with youth. I’ve been talking to a lot of people and I’m thinking about becoming a social worker. This option has become especially appealing after I learned that licensed clinical social workers can do therapy and many authors are LCSW’s, which fits well with my desire to write.
Slowly but surely, I’m setting some long-term goals which is a new, but amazing feeling. I don’t expect a job to offer me complete fulfillment, but I think I’ll find much satisfaction pursuing my vocation. I’m realizing my vocation and I’m working towards it. I certainly don’t have the path marked out in front of me, but at least I have the destination in mind. And while I travel a scenic route towards becoming a social worker, I expect many detours, traffic, and rest stops along the way. Those hindrances are rarely pleasant, but they’ll certainly help me become a more patient and more knowledgeable traveler.
I’ve got my map, I’ve packed my bags, and I’m ready to enjoy the ride. Bring it on, life. I think I can handle what’s next.
thatShortChick
July 15th, 2009 at 11:30 AM
I know you are headed for some AMAZING things (no matter how big or small) and I’m so excited for you that you are on your way!
Leahchristine
July 16th, 2009 at 11:27 AM
After I got laid off and my teenage brother was diagnosed with a mental illness, I spent a lot of time getting involved in his health care and diagnosis and I saw first hand how f’ed up the health care industry and government is in regards to treating mental illness. I’m thinking of making the switch from marketing as my career to something in social work as well. What good was I doing as a marketing copywriter besides making millions of dollars for a computer company? Nothing! I’m going to take a note from you and try to “rediscover” myself.
Cee
July 19th, 2009 at 3:08 PM
Kudos to you!
I felt the same way when I got laid off — a bit lost and not sure where to go. I was so sure that I’d be at the company for 20+ years.
I agree on the community involvement thing – it’s always something I’ve wanted to do more of, and while I was able to do some there @ Former Company, getting laid off gave me the opportunity to go out and do more.
I even joined the local Junior League so I can help out in different ways and meet people in the process.
I think it’s so awesome that you are looking for something that is fulfilling and not just another job. I was the same way and I’m hoping this new job is everything I hoped it would be.
Best of luck to you!!
cooper
July 21st, 2009 at 10:57 PM
That is wonderful. I don’t think any of us have a clear path, and I’m not entirely convinced anyone does, but as long as there are several and they are marked we will be ok.
Social work is hard work, I wish you well with that. It takes a certain kind of person for sure.
Laurie
August 6th, 2009 at 11:07 PM
I get the feeling if I knew you irl we’d be great friends. I have the EXACT same feelings about my lay off. Did I see a tweet from you that you are working now? I am too. It was a very hard time, but I discovered a lot of the same things you did. I hope you are doing well and are in a better place now. *hugs*
I am doing better now! Thanks for the encouragement. It’s been a long and rough journey, but I’m starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
And I bet we’d be good friends IRL too. Ha!
abena
September 24th, 2009 at 10:33 AM
Great blog!! and good for you! goals are so important aren’t they…even thought they can be difficult to make…they put everything into perspective!
Thanks! And you’re right. Goals really help guide you and the steps you make. I’m thankful I finally have some in my life.